I just saw Adam Lambert in concert tonight..and WOW! He has so much talent! It was a great show, and he sounded amazing. I think he is definitely headed toward bigger and better venues! Great job Adam!
Monday, August 16, 2010
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Melancholy
I can't believe this is my third post on the same day, but here it is. I am feeling a bit melancholy. I think being single is taking it's toll on me today for some reason. Maybe there is some astrological reason for it, who knows?
I am going to bed, and wake up with a fresh attitude. Tomorrow is the start of the new me! Well, a new day anyway.
I am going to bed, and wake up with a fresh attitude. Tomorrow is the start of the new me! Well, a new day anyway.
Limbo
Do you ever feel like you are emotionally in limbo? Right now, I feel like things are just...there. There is someone I am interested in, and there is no response. When we hang out, I get a glimpse of cool things...then other times, it's like we haven't met. I know, I know...let it go.
I am just sitting here, feeling like something is missing. I can't really explain it. It's like I miss something I don't have. Does that make sense to anyone out there?
I am not sure why I had to blog about it, but I figured I'd give you a little insight into my world at this moment...thanks for reading. :)
I am just sitting here, feeling like something is missing. I can't really explain it. It's like I miss something I don't have. Does that make sense to anyone out there?
I am not sure why I had to blog about it, but I figured I'd give you a little insight into my world at this moment...thanks for reading. :)
Online Dating
Dating sites. There is Match.com, Chemistry.com, PlentyofFish.com, OKCupid.com, and the list goes on. I have been on all of these at one point or another. You'd think with the number of people who have access to the internet, it would be easier to find someone to date. But like anything, timing is everything.
It's quite an interesting phenomenon. You put up pictures, detailed personal information, and your deepest desires, and hope for the best. It truly is a crap shoot. Will Prince Charming stumble across your profile? Will he be compelled to send you an email and ask for more information and a possible date? Will you search the thousands of profiles and find that one picture/profile that sends your heart and mind reeling with possibilities?
This whole online dating isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sure we've all seen the happy couples on the TV commercials, and that is great for them. But where is my TV commercial success? I suppose there is value in online dating. You can divulge information to a stranger, telling all your truths and secrets, and hope they respond favorably. There is the instant message, which allows you to talk in "real time." For some reason it seems easier than an actual phone conversation for some people. For me, personally, if we hit it off on instant messenger, I prefer the phone because then you get a better sense of other person's actual personality, and subtle sarcasm doesn't get lost in translation as it often does online.
It seems that meeting people out in public for the first time, at a club for example, has become outdated. When you go out, so many people are busy texting it almost seems silly to bother going out to meet someone at all. Of course, if things go well on instant message, email, and/or texts, then you may decide to eventually meet. Which brings me to my next question...
Why do people lie about their age? Why do they post pictures that are several years old? Isn't the ultimate goal to meet face to face? At that point, the false digits and aged photos will be proven deceitful. This only sets you up for an awkward moment when you realize the person you have been talking to has already started off the relationship with lies. It's very disappointing, believe me.
I am a believer in truth in advertising. Do I put everything out there right away? (Yes, often I do, sigh...) I do post my true age and recent pictures. It is 2010, and there are cell phones and many other ways to get your image online. If you don't have such a feature on your cell phone, ask a friend to take a picture of you and send it to your email. Please.
It's quite an interesting phenomenon. You put up pictures, detailed personal information, and your deepest desires, and hope for the best. It truly is a crap shoot. Will Prince Charming stumble across your profile? Will he be compelled to send you an email and ask for more information and a possible date? Will you search the thousands of profiles and find that one picture/profile that sends your heart and mind reeling with possibilities?
This whole online dating isn't all it's cracked up to be. Sure we've all seen the happy couples on the TV commercials, and that is great for them. But where is my TV commercial success? I suppose there is value in online dating. You can divulge information to a stranger, telling all your truths and secrets, and hope they respond favorably. There is the instant message, which allows you to talk in "real time." For some reason it seems easier than an actual phone conversation for some people. For me, personally, if we hit it off on instant messenger, I prefer the phone because then you get a better sense of other person's actual personality, and subtle sarcasm doesn't get lost in translation as it often does online.
It seems that meeting people out in public for the first time, at a club for example, has become outdated. When you go out, so many people are busy texting it almost seems silly to bother going out to meet someone at all. Of course, if things go well on instant message, email, and/or texts, then you may decide to eventually meet. Which brings me to my next question...
Why do people lie about their age? Why do they post pictures that are several years old? Isn't the ultimate goal to meet face to face? At that point, the false digits and aged photos will be proven deceitful. This only sets you up for an awkward moment when you realize the person you have been talking to has already started off the relationship with lies. It's very disappointing, believe me.
I am a believer in truth in advertising. Do I put everything out there right away? (Yes, often I do, sigh...) I do post my true age and recent pictures. It is 2010, and there are cell phones and many other ways to get your image online. If you don't have such a feature on your cell phone, ask a friend to take a picture of you and send it to your email. Please.
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Confusing
So my dating life, to say the least, has been interesting.
I haven't quite figured out how to master the art of getting dates to progress to further stages of development. Getting the dates isn't usually a challenge. I do get many offers, which is flattering. However, it is often the case that I am attracted to guys that are not attracted to me, and vice versa. It is a common problem that I am sure most single people face.
The guys I have dated in the past all start out great. There is a huge interest for both of us. Then somewhere within the first six months, things shift. They start getting nervous that I am actually "the real deal." It seems great to think about the guy you want to date...monogomous, passionate, honest, thoughtful, trustworthy, etc...but when it actually shows up on your doorstep, reality gets a little frightening. "Is this really it? Am I ready for it?"
Ultimately, they leave, check out the other "greener" pastures, and then attempt to return to the original field, aka...me. I can't quite figure out this way of thinking, but it's happened to me so often, I should set up a case study. Then again, my mom once told me, "Exes are exes for a reason." She is a clever lady that mom of mine.
So what is a single guy supposed to do? I guess just wait and hope for the best. It's such a frustrating cycle.
I don't want to leave you with the impression that I am not happy with my life. Quite the opposite. I have an amazing group of friends and family. I am truly blessed with the people I have in my life. I am just hoping to find someone to share it all with on a different level. I know he's out there...I'm just wondering if his love GPS is working.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Happy One-Year Anniversary!
I am not sure why I decided to start up my blog again, a few days after the one year anniversary of my first posting! That is kind of funny to me! I hope this year I will fill up this blog more than I did in the past! :)
OK...so where to begin? As you may have figured out (especially if you read my profile) I am a gay man, so I figured I woud write about the joys and frustrations of my life as a gay man. I am a very upbeat, happy person 98% of the time. Very little gets me down. I look at anger and hatred as wasted energy, and I would rather spend my time trying to be happy and make other people happy.
So a little about me. I turned 41 this summer. In the gay world, I should probably be checking into a nursing home, as most people seem to want guys that are 18-27. Still, I have held up well physically, and I look much younger than my age (thank you Nivea night cream). I am not an effeminate guy, and I tend to like guys that act masculine as well. I am low-key in public, though I have been known to cause outbursts of laughter from my friends.
I am currently single, and I am not really ok with that. I am not one to jump from relationship to relationship, and I don't date just for the sake of dating someone, because I don't necessarily have to be single. I have had offers to date, but I just haven't found the "one" that makes my heart skip a beat just yet.
I have had some wonderful boyfriends in the past, and yes, there are three of them that I would consider dating again, if the opportunity presented itself. I am not sure if that's why I am currently single, and fate is making me hold off for now, or just bad dating luck. I will keep you posted on that.
My friends are always curious why I am still single. I have to wonder that myself. The physical attraction is a personal decision by the viewer, so maybe I am not everyone's type. Though I do get hit on by women quite frequently, as well as some gay men that I am not interested in physically. (Sigh.)
I am actually very happy with WHO I am as a person, however. I honestly try to treat people better than I expect to be treated. I have a great sense of humor, a sensitive personality, and a lot of passion to share. When I am dating someone, I give myself to them. Maybe too much. I am a bit of an open book. I wear my emotions on my sleeve (which can be hard to read if I am wearing a polo, but I digress.)
I am an actual believer in monogomy and the living happily ever after thing...call me Cinderella, but it's just who I am. I grew up in an ideal home situation with two parents that truly loved each other, so I know that true love is possible.
So I remain hopeful and optimistic that in this advanced age of mine, I will eventually find the true love I have been hoping to find.
OK...so where to begin? As you may have figured out (especially if you read my profile) I am a gay man, so I figured I woud write about the joys and frustrations of my life as a gay man. I am a very upbeat, happy person 98% of the time. Very little gets me down. I look at anger and hatred as wasted energy, and I would rather spend my time trying to be happy and make other people happy.
So a little about me. I turned 41 this summer. In the gay world, I should probably be checking into a nursing home, as most people seem to want guys that are 18-27. Still, I have held up well physically, and I look much younger than my age (thank you Nivea night cream). I am not an effeminate guy, and I tend to like guys that act masculine as well. I am low-key in public, though I have been known to cause outbursts of laughter from my friends.
I am currently single, and I am not really ok with that. I am not one to jump from relationship to relationship, and I don't date just for the sake of dating someone, because I don't necessarily have to be single. I have had offers to date, but I just haven't found the "one" that makes my heart skip a beat just yet.
I have had some wonderful boyfriends in the past, and yes, there are three of them that I would consider dating again, if the opportunity presented itself. I am not sure if that's why I am currently single, and fate is making me hold off for now, or just bad dating luck. I will keep you posted on that.
My friends are always curious why I am still single. I have to wonder that myself. The physical attraction is a personal decision by the viewer, so maybe I am not everyone's type. Though I do get hit on by women quite frequently, as well as some gay men that I am not interested in physically. (Sigh.)
I am actually very happy with WHO I am as a person, however. I honestly try to treat people better than I expect to be treated. I have a great sense of humor, a sensitive personality, and a lot of passion to share. When I am dating someone, I give myself to them. Maybe too much. I am a bit of an open book. I wear my emotions on my sleeve (which can be hard to read if I am wearing a polo, but I digress.)
I am an actual believer in monogomy and the living happily ever after thing...call me Cinderella, but it's just who I am. I grew up in an ideal home situation with two parents that truly loved each other, so I know that true love is possible.
So I remain hopeful and optimistic that in this advanced age of mine, I will eventually find the true love I have been hoping to find.
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